Parents To Learn When Children Are Grown Up

My friend, Aloysius shared a forward email on how to live life when children are grown up as adult, did a re-translation.

一、不要再替成年子女操心，才不會碎碎唸。

1. Overly concerned about adult children, will start us on annoying chatters, being subjected to parents's worry & hearing babbles is what adult children need least.

二、不要再將成年子女當成未成年來「監護」，以免顧人怨。
2. To the adult children, it's annoying when parents acting as guardian angel over them, just like they were underaged.

三、不必事事都「非知道不可」，尊重已成年子女的隱私權、自主權。

3.Parents should always ask themselves, is there really a need to know nitty gritty details and everything of adult children ? or is it better to respect their privacy, letting them learn in their own decision-making.

四、不要再以兒、孫為生活重心，尋找自己的園地，才不致天天望穿秋水。
4. Let the adult children raise their own children, after you have raised yours, do enjoy all of them, but go on to enrich your own life with friends in other social circles.

五、不要逢人就訴苦，寧可寫作、畫畫、練功、唱歌,以藝術、創作昇華情緒。

5. Having a hobby, in writing, painting, sports & exercise, or singing, and being creative is better than living a life of complaint and boredom.

六、不要凡事抱怨，多欣賞、感謝別人為取悅你所做的努力。
6. Appreciate and be thankful of what adult children do to please you.

七、不要因孫輩和子女媳婿爭執衝突，這樣只會惡性循環，害了你的孫輩。

7. Avoid any tangles in dispute between children and grandchildren.

八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫，有病要治病，領了藥要服藥，治不好的要忍耐。
8. If you have a sickness, find a way to get well, if the pain persists,consult a doctor, if the pain doesn't go away, be patient to find a solution.

九、不要疑心病太重，要感激還願意留在你身邊的人，免得最後連他也走了！

9. Always appreciate children's effort to get near to you, being skeptical will not build relationship, for skepticism drives people out of your life.

十、有堅定的信仰，對未來抱著開心、樂觀的態度。

10. Have unweavering faith to see there is always a better future & be happy about it.

如果以上十點，每一點是十分，祝福各位聰明的老人，都能幸福一百分。

If each of the above is 10 marks for each , and 10 x 10 equals 100, hope you will score high marks for yourself to be happy.

-- advisor unknown --

How true, common sense advices, but yet so easily overlook...

Letting go of the children to live their own life to face challenges is what we must do......

and live our portion of gift of life blessed to us positively seem to be the answer.

look like best not to annoy anyone..........one way or another.

OOooo, now, it's old man's turn to hold peace.

Emmmm, this make sense.