What is Fear ? What is Deception ?

How to explain Fear & Deception ?

What is fear & what is deception postings has relevancy & reference to my few postings earlier.

Fear is akin to the cage that cages the eagle. Deception is akin to the door of the cage.

How the cage disorientates the eagle to know his true identity, so it's the fear that paralyse him to know who he is and what is his full potential in life.


Refering to the CAPTURED EAGLE......versus.......THE FREE EAGLE, who is always a symbol of strength.

Eagle's claws, aren't they strong, able to grab preys be it small as rabbit or big as mountain goat. tearing the prey apart, before devouring it ?

Eagle's wings, aren't they powerful to withstand elements such as " pressure "

I wonder, whether the captured eagle ever DESIRES for his own freedom ?

if he is so, wouldn't he uses his beak to tear open the cage that cages him ? the cage is only made up of 3 mm to 5 mm wire mesh.

I wonder, whether the captured eagle want his freedom ? more than the desire in his heart ?

if he is so, wouldn't he flap his wings to smash his prison door ? that is made from some small planks of wood.

I wonder, if the captured eagle can thinks ? whether he will calculate the worthiness of trying and not trying, measures the smashing of the prison door against the pain & bruises in the process.

I wonder, if the captured eagle can reason ? will he compare the pain in smashing to the pain in withstand air pressure he experiences in the sky.

I wonder too, if the captured eagle send a crucial call to the herdful of his friends who is outside of his cage, will the Free Eagles respond to his call for help ?

We human call the cage as fear and the door of the cage as deception, will the captured eagle ever get the freedom to fly again ?

Yes ?

No ?

???????

Not until the captured eagle realise who he is, his captor would want him to believe that he is a chicken, for use as a dish or a pet to be kept as a showpiece, as well as for abuse.

Parents To Learn When Children Are Grown Up

My friend, Aloysius shared a forward email on how to live life when children are grown up as adult, did a re-translation.

一、不要再替成年子女操心，才不會碎碎唸。

1. Overly concerned about adult children, will start us on annoying chatters, being subjected to parents's worry & hearing babbles is what adult children need least.

二、不要再將成年子女當成未成年來「監護」，以免顧人怨。
2. To the adult children, it's annoying when parents acting as guardian angel over them, just like they were underaged.

三、不必事事都「非知道不可」，尊重已成年子女的隱私權、自主權。

3.Parents should always ask themselves, is there really a need to know nitty gritty details and everything of adult children ? or is it better to respect their privacy, letting them learn in their own decision-making.

四、不要再以兒、孫為生活重心，尋找自己的園地，才不致天天望穿秋水。
4. Let the adult children raise their own children, after you have raised yours, do enjoy all of them, but go on to enrich your own life with friends in other social circles.

五、不要逢人就訴苦，寧可寫作、畫畫、練功、唱歌,以藝術、創作昇華情緒。

5. Having a hobby, in writing, painting, sports & exercise, or singing, and being creative is better than living a life of complaint and boredom.

六、不要凡事抱怨，多欣賞、感謝別人為取悅你所做的努力。
6. Appreciate and be thankful of what adult children do to please you.

七、不要因孫輩和子女媳婿爭執衝突，這樣只會惡性循環，害了你的孫輩。

7. Avoid any tangles in dispute between children and grandchildren.

八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫，有病要治病，領了藥要服藥，治不好的要忍耐。
8. If you have a sickness, find a way to get well, if the pain persists,consult a doctor, if the pain doesn't go away, be patient to find a solution.

九、不要疑心病太重，要感激還願意留在你身邊的人，免得最後連他也走了！

9. Always appreciate children's effort to get near to you, being skeptical will not build relationship, for skepticism drives people out of your life.

十、有堅定的信仰，對未來抱著開心、樂觀的態度。

10. Have unweavering faith to see there is always a better future & be happy about it.

如果以上十點，每一點是十分，祝福各位聰明的老人，都能幸福一百分。

If each of the above is 10 marks for each , and 10 x 10 equals 100, hope you will score high marks for yourself to be happy.

-- advisor unknown --

How true, common sense advices, but yet so easily overlook...

Letting go of the children to live their own life to face challenges is what we must do......

and live our portion of gift of life blessed to us positively seem to be the answer.

look like best not to annoy anyone..........one way or another.

OOooo, now, it's old man's turn to hold peace.

Emmmm, this make sense.

The Power of Memory

A text by Lee Lee, my childhood friend

南燕来电要我写一篇怀念老师的感言。当时，我马上想到我小学的级任老师——曾玉清老师。曾老师虽然已离开了世上多年，可是我对她的教导仍然念念不忘。

曾老师是我小学一年级至六年级的级任老师。六年时间的相处，说长不长，说短也不短。所以，一切校园的点点滴滴至今还铭记在我的脑海里.

自从毕业后，我从来不曾联络老师，直到金峰从外国回来，与贵兴来拜访时，我才知道曾老师得了癌症。我听后，心里非常的难过。

当时，我心里想我一定要抽出时间去马六甲探望她。可是我的一拖再拖而把这件事给搁了。直到我再次得到她的消息时，她已经去世有好几个月了。我觉得非常的遗憾和痛心。

趁着这一个教师节，我希望曾老师能在另一个极乐世界永远的快乐。在此，我默默的向您说声：“曾老师，我永远的怀念您！”

Translation

I was asked to write something to thank the teacher who has left an impact in my life. Almost immediately i am reminded of 曾玉清老师, my primary school teacher who has thought us for 6 years, from Standard 1 to standard 6.

曾玉清老师 was my favorite teacher, whatever she thought is still engraved in my mind. 6 years in the primary school wasn't that long, but i have fond memories of the school and this teachers.

When a primary classmate of ours, Kim Fong came back from US, dropped by to visit, with another friend Kooi Heng, then we got to know that 曾玉清老师 had suffered from cancer. I was very sad.

I wanted to pay her a visit, but somehow, procrestination got a better hold of me. By the time i received the late teacher's news few months later, my favorite teacher had passed away. I regretted my procrestination and I was deeply sadden myself for not making effort to just visit her.

The above was a gist of what was written by Lee Lee, in remembrance of her favorite teacher who has thought her 6 years in the primary school.

It was our planned effort to make the teacher happy, unknowingly Lee Lee has churned out her deepest thought, and a sincere confession which comes with some degree of regret and guilt.

Lee Lee, i appreciate your openness, i thank you for sharing.

While Lee lee has excellent memories of what the teacher has thought her 40 years ago, personally I experienced something quite the opposite, not with 曾玉清老师 but my primary school's Maths teacher.

Up to today, I puzzled at this particular teacher, who was my Maths teacher for 6 years in the primary school, why he hated me so much by picking fault with me, and find many ways to punish me during the Maths lesson. I still shivers at the thought of my knuckles being hit so hard with rulers, irregardless of how hard I tried to please him by doing all the works given.

For no apparent reason that I knew, the Maths teacher, before the starting of class, would call me up, isolated me to stand in front of the class, while he carried on with his lesson, the entire 30 minutes, if it was one period, and sometimes more if it was two periods. I stood there like an idiot, wondering what was done that has caused his wrath to unleash his anger towards me, but unable to escape from the humiliation & embarassment that I was subjected to.

Frankly, I was hurting and hated to be treated in such mean ways, I didn't know what to do but endured the Maths teacher's abusive behavior. The unspoken fears did have an impact in my life then.

Growing up, I have a deep rooted hatred towards the Maths teacher, so much so it affected my learning of Maths in secondary school.

One thing I am sure now, I dislike pain-enhanced teaching, if at all it achieved the objective of learning.

For this Maths teacher, I will say he doesn't deserve my respect of him.


And so.............., TEACHER/S......, do have a heart for the children that is put under your care.



Many many years down the road, someone may put up your picture while they blog, and listed down all the crimes you committed against humanity


The Maths teacher that I dislike most, with lousy teaching.This is Xu
许
Lao shi ( Xu lao shu )

or just call you up to say, hei my dear teacher, how are you ? have time for lunch or dinner ?



or during the Teacher's Day, someone you unexpected may call you to say, you are my favorite teacher,




I appreciate you.

Surely there is a value that ties up with childhood memories.

许

What Friendship Is To Me

Lee Lee and I share a special bonding since our childhood friendship.

We value family, friendship and appreciate teachers as well as openness in our friendship.

We may not meet as often as we like to, due to family commitments, living in separate locations in the city, busy in earning a decent living, but we keep this special bond of friendship close to our heart by calling each other from time to time.

Come Teacher’s day every year, as far as I can remember, for the past few many years, we have been calling each other , reminding one another to make a call to our teachers to wish them a Happy Teacher’s Day.

We had a chance to meet and when one of our primary school classmate, came back from US to visit his family in 2006, he too shares a desire to meet some teachers whom we have fond memories with.

Thus, we put our head together, do some friend search to find our classmates and networking , we ended up in Malacca in Teacher Fung & Teacher Lim ‘s house.

There was excitement, nostalgic moments and we had a good time reminiscing childhood memories.

Came 2009 teacher day, I suggested to Lee Lee to do something different from what we have been doing ,I suggested besides calling the the teacher to wish them Happy teacher’s day, we will share our experience in appreciating teachers, in the hope that others can learn to give an encouragement to their teacher as well.

Lee Lee has responded so well to my suggestion and she wrote me an article, which I should have posted it before the teacher’s day on May 16, 2009. However, somehow ...............thus the delay until now, well it’s never too late than never ………..

Besides calling the teachers to wish them Happy Teacher's Day, this is what was done..............and i tressure it near to my heart.

To be continued..

Did Mary Pulled Weeds ? Part 2

Continue from.....Did Mary pulled weeds Part 1

We all grow up, leave home, get married and have children. The transformation from child to teenager to adult to wife to mother was never taught. We are just supposed to ‘do it’. The realisation of the change is always sudden.

As mothers, we are supposed to love the family emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

We are to give them all we have, grow with them and be the super woman that everyone expects of us.

I am sure that many if not most mothers have many times felt exhausted. physically, emotionally and mentally exhausted.

I do. How are we supposed to know what to do?

When I look back over the years, I recall so many mistakes and errors in raising a child, maintaining a home and providing advice.

I feel inadequate.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. “ Matthew 11:28-30 NIV

Our God is a good God.

At moments of such frustration and exhaustion, God has spoken to me and reminded me that He has a special calling for women.

When He called Mary to bear Jesus, the Son of God, He gave motherhood a special place.

As mundane as we feel our everyday is; waiting upon others, serving them with our hands and feet, seeming insignificant at times - God sees that servant heart in us.

I realised that Mary, mother of Jesus, chosen and highly favoured of God; had to raise Jesus and run a household.

Feed, bathe and clothe a growing Jesus. Bandage his knee when he fell whilst playing, remove the splinter from his finger when he was hurt helping in the carpentry workshop and many other motherly duties.

Cooking, cleaning and even worried sleepless nights. Yes, I can see that she would have also have had to pull the weeds from her garden.

I am blessed to be chosen by God; to be a mother.

Happy Mother’s Day.

Note from Agnes : Brenda was a nurse by profession.

Brenda said " I asked God for some flowers.........., He gave me a garden, some sunshine & some rain.........were weeds from Him I ask ??? "

" Some how, I have faith to trust that when seeds are planted, i need to have patience and His grace to experience every moment of those growth in that garden....."


God Bless You Winston, Brenda & Cassadra darling, I miss your fellowship.

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers,

The mothers who treks in mountains and jungles, and mothers who don't.

Mothers who, throughout some life experiences, developed tough muscles, and some not so tough,

As trekkers in life, God does give mothers a soft heart, doesn't He ?

Just as God gave Brenda a garden to learn through gardening, to make it into a beautiful part of her home, likewise God has given us a family, what and how we make out of it, we have lots to learn.... aren't we ?