Tuesday, March 3, 2009

With Two Hours Of Life, What Will You Do ? 每天都過得很充實、負責,這才是生命

Received the below e-mail article from my beloved sister in Mandarin.

Your understanding of it, with translation, hope it will be a source of warmth to you, that you may love and cherish, everyone that comes across your path, as what the author has intended this to be.

The article was written by a reporter in Taiwan, it's about a man who had contracted cancer, after seeking for treatment, situation did not improved, and hope diminished.

Left with two hours of his life, he chose to ...............

當你步入生命終點,不能走、不能講、不能想、不能吃喝,
只能靠呼吸器,就快閉眼長逝,
醫生告訴你,只剩最後一次機會,
只給你最後兩小時,回到你以前熟悉的世界,你最想做什麼?


The article started with...,

" If you have come to the end, Unable to walk, unable to talk, unable to think well, unable to eat, it's on life supporting machine, going to bid farewell.....

and the doctor asked, giving you an opportunity, which you have two hours, let you go back to the world that you are familiar with, what is the thing you most desire to do ? "

至今看到那張照片:
闃黑的電影院,一個骨瘦如柴的癌末病人,
旁邊一個哭紅雙眼的女兒,和背後一群不斷拭淚的親友,總會一陣鼻酸。

In darkness, inside the cinema, seeing a man accompanying his children......

他,在生命最後一刻,選擇包下戲院,陪一對兒女和癌症病童,看最後一場電影∼一場悲傷的史瑞克。

he had, at his last breathe, chose to accompany his two children, watched " Shrek The Third "

那天上午,睡夢中被朋友的電話叫醒,她說,有個朋友末期癌症,快死了,中午包下天母美麗華戲院,
陪家人看史瑞克第三集,親友互傳簡訊,希望大家作陪,去看他最後一眼。

我趕緊通知攝影,連忙換裝,從木柵搭計程車,花了四百多元飆到天母,見證這段不朽的愛。

他,卅八歲,是自營廠牌的男裝業者,就在創業維艱,公司營業額好不容易突破一億元,有天突然腹瀉不止,原本不以為意。

身高 一百八十公分 ,體重九十幾公斤的他,就像史瑞克一樣壯,健保卡只用過兩次,都是洗牙,從未生病,唯一例外是當兵時曾檢查B型肝炎帶原,但不曾有過異狀。

38 years old, he was healthy, owned a business that had sale just surpassed TWND one billion...... One day he had a non-stop diarrhea..

沒想到,到台大醫院檢查,醫師宣判,他已肝癌末期,最多只剩六個月生命,原來他是因為癌細胞太大, 壓迫到胃才腹瀉不止。

Earlier upon diagnosis, the doctor gave him 6 months to live. it was difficult to accept this news....

這個青天霹靂,讓他一夜瘦了 三公斤 ,此後三天不吃、不說,神情呆滯,無法接受這個玩笑。

「我不偷不搶,認真過每一天,為何死神選上我?而不是那些壞人?」嬌小的太太,更是傷悲。

事事依賴老公的她,就讀高職時,和讀五專的老公聯誼,姻緣線從此把們牽在一起,認定彼此是今生廝守的那個人。

她等他退伍,成了他的新娘,婚後一兒一女相繼問世,夫妻倆聯手創立男裝公司,就像童話故事, 一家四口從此過著幸福快樂的生活。

他愛孩子,堅持給他們最好的,讓他們念昂貴的私立小學,由於校車只到山下,距離他們位半山腰的家還要走一段山路, 平時都由他跟太太輪流開車接送兒女;寒暑假,會安排兒女到國外遊學,他暗自打算,大兒子若對服裝有興趣,將來要送到義大利留學,繼承家業。

他不像一般商人,下班後幾乎從不喝酒應酬,都把時間留給家人,假日常陪孩子看電影,超愛史瑞克的女兒尤其黏他,一回到家,就像無尾熊般跳到爸爸身上,史瑞克前兩集一上映,就吵著要爸爸帶她去看。在她心中,高壯的爸爸就像史瑞克一樣可愛,說要爸爸抱她到一百歲。

這完美的一切,都因無情的癌症被打碎了。

All his dreams was shattered.

醫生說,他的癌細胞太大了,化療無用,無法換肝,只能等死。

他捨不得拋下嬌妻幼子,不肯向死神束手投降,夫妻到對岸展開換肝之旅,從上海、天津到廣州,終於如願換肝。

Had tried liver transplant, however the cancer cells grew to other parts of his body. Within a very short time, he was unable to walk, unable to talk, and vomitted more than 20 times per day.

無奈癌細胞不放過他,兩個月後又轉移到骨頭、脊髓,再從肺臟一路蔓延到大腦,到最後已無法行動、言語, 一天平均要劇烈嘔吐廿多次,只能打嗎啡止痛,靠打點滴維生。戰到最後一兵一卒,去年端午節他決定轉到台北榮總安寧病房,打算有尊嚴地離開。

女兒有次到麥當勞吃速食,附贈一個史瑞克玩偶,回病房告訴爸爸,她想看史瑞克三,他記在心裡,偷偷詢問主治大夫,他能否離開安寧病房陪兒女看最後一場電影。

His daughter brought her Shrek toy to the hospital after lunched at Mc Donald, she told the father that she wished to watch the movie " Shrek The Third "

She had wanted her father to hold her like Shrek had hold his little shreks, for a loooooooong hundred years.

He then enquired from the doctor whether he could be out of the hospital.

醫生告訴他,依其身體狀況,頂多只能離開醫院四、五十分鐘,但為了完成他的心願,醫生每天為他安排特訓,讓他試著將瘦到 四十公斤不到的孱弱身軀,從平躺的病床移至輪椅,第一天五分鐘、第二天十分鐘、第三天廿分鐘...眾人努力讓他能陪兒女看完一個半小時的史瑞克三。堅韌的愛,讓他辦到了。

The doctor advised that according to his health condition, the most he can be outside the hospital was 40-50 mintutes.

But to help fulfill his heart's desire, the doctor help trained him being away from his sick bed, starting with 5 minutes, gradually to 10 minutes, and progressing to 20 minutes....

他不想麻煩親友,臥病在床,起來和死神搏鬥,直到生命最後階段,他才通知親友,希望見最後一面,感謝今生有緣相識。

那一天,中午十二點不到,大家接到他的簡訊,紛紛趕到戲院,醫院更是做好萬全準備,由醫生、護士用擔架把他抬進戲院,架上點滴,蓋好棉被。

He had booked the seats for the entire cinema. invited all his friends and relatives to come, watched the movie with his children.

It was at 12 noon that day......

他勉強睜開雙眼,雖然說不出話,但看到親友、妻兒都在身邊,他很激動,淚水一直在眼眶打轉;電影還沒開演,很多親友早已哭紅雙眼。

He tried hard to open his eyes, unable to talk, tears welled up & he was so touched to see his friends & families there.

even before the show began, everyone was broken beyond words.


史瑞克上演以來,這絕對是笑聲最少的一場。

The cinema has the least laughter from audiences ever since the movie was put on screen for the public.

中,擔心的親友,眼光不時移向他。

其間他多次嘔吐,醫生趕緊打開手電筒幫他加藥,他的生命,如燈光閃爍飄搖,大家很難專心觀影,生怕他就此斷氣。

In between the show, he was vomitting, and the doctor was attending to him....

電影結束時,史瑞克的老婆費歐娜生了三個小妖怪,又是一段新生命的開始。

At the end of the show, Shrek and his wife have three little shreks with them, going through another stage of life together....

但一落幕,看到奄奄一息的癌末爸爸,大家又不禁鼻酸落淚,上前為他們一家四口打氣加油,小女兒已泣不成聲。

At the end of the show, the children were sobbing uncontrollably....




螢幕上的史瑞克,若看得見台下這家人,可能也會掉淚...。


If Shrek and his family had seen what had happened in the cinema, I believe....

Shrek & his family would have been touched too.....

我從未像這一天,那麼痛恨當記者!


" I have never hated myself such as today for being a reporter, as on this day, witnessing the touching moment of what this man had chosen to do, spending time with his family watching a movie, i have to hold back my emotion, continued asking the family regarding the situation, yet can't do much for them.

因為我要強忍住淚水,向當事者問到更多故事,不能只是默默哀傷。這是多麼殘忍的行業。

我也從未像這一天,覺得當記者,是如此幸福!

Nevertheless I felt honoured to witness this moment of truth. as a reporter.

因為我有幸目睹至性至情的人生悲劇,能靠著我的筆,感動世人,喚起大家心中的愛

my desire is to bring this story to others, with hope to encourage everyone, to cherish and to love........through my writting.


隨行年輕的攝影記者,應該也是天人交戰,但他有義務拍好這動人的一幕,昭告世人,珍重健康,好好愛惜身邊的人

" Take good care of your health, appreciate the people who come across your path."


我不想破壞現場氣氛,只用數位相機,隨著攝影拍了幾張照片,並未打擾這家人。

直到散場,我才趕到榮總,取得體諒,專訪癌末爸爸的另一半,聽她娓訴說一切。

剛開始,女兒經常躲在棉被哭,問我怎麼辦,以後就要沒爸爸了。我告訴她,我也同樣快失去老公了, 沒關係,還有媽媽在,以後我會陪妳躲在棉被裡哭。女兒於是漸漸釋懷,找到堅強活下去的力量。」聽到這段話,我終於忍不住陪著她掉淚

"In the beginning, covering with blanket, my daughter cried always, asking what will happened ? because she will loose her daddy "

I told her " I am going to loose my husband too " the wife reportedly said.

" But, we must live on....because we have each other, we must find strength to live on..."


看著昔日合照健壯的丈夫,如今皮包骨,她心疼不已,

告訴兒子「別人的蠟燭可以燒十二小時,爸爸卻只燒六小時,是因為他燒太快、太亮了!你將來一定要獨立,像爸爸一樣,每天都過得很充實、負責,這才是生命。

Turning to her son," Other candle can burnt for up to 12 hours, your daddy's candle has burned for 6 hours because he burned it too fast, too bright...."

" Everyday let's live life worthily, responsibly,..."

傍晚,搭捷運回去,到寫稿,我眼淚一直流個不停。

From the time I bade them farewell, taking the MRT back to writting this article, my tears just didn't seem to stop......

隔天,他的照片登上頭版,感動了很多人;至今想起當天情景,我還是很想掉淚。

The next day, it was headline in the news, thinking back how that particular day was, tears well up in my eyes again without fail.

一周後,他安然離去,臨終前一再對老婆說「對不起」,並引用電視上一對夫妻在雨天共乘遊覽車出遊的保險廣告:「如果可以,我也寧願與妳白頭偕老,然後讓妳先走,悲傷由我來背,無奈...。」

A week later,

" If possible, I would like you to pass on before me, i would go through the sorrow myself rather than you having to go through it.........." saying " sorry " to his wife.

He passed on and left his family.

史瑞克三DVD上架有一陣子了,每次到出租店,我都猶豫要不要租回家。

去年暑假,在電影院看過史瑞克三,但完全不記得情節,連可愛的小史瑞克長什麼樣,都沒印象了。

因為戲外的人生,比戲內動人;戲內上演喜劇,戲外卻是悲劇,但這悲劇,卻又蘊藏無比生命力。

I have watched the movie Shrek, I have forgotten how the drama was. Shrek The Third, was a comedy. The real life drama that i witnessed, was a sad ending.

「他是天上的月亮,同時照亮了我們每一盆生命之水!」

那天電影開場前,主治醫師致詞說的話,我永遠記得。

The doctor words before the show started to ring in me.....

...."If you have come to the end, unable to walk, unable to talk,.....on life supporting machine, going to bid farewell.....giving you an opportunity,..have two hours,....what is the thing you most desire to do ????


如果是你, 你會做什麼 ????

what will you do, if it is you ?

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